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Re: daughter 4 discipline

Mar 21, 2009 6:34 AM

umm that hgh school seems a little weird. Kids should be able to make up their work. What if the kids grandma died and they were out for a funeral? sorry but thats just my opinion.

3catzforme

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Registered: 3/20/09

Re: daughter 4 discipline

Mar 20, 2009 8:29 PM

I work at a high school and am quite familiar with their discipline. Detention or Alternative Learning Center (ALC) as my school calls it, is NOT punishment. It is a room overseen by a campus assistant. The only complaint I've heard in my 13+ years is that it's boring because they are not allowed to talk. The students' solution is.......to go to sleep. In my classroom, we do not allow the students to make up class work because it is considered an unexcused absence. It can affect the student's grade. Most students that get sent to ALC (detention) don't care about their grades anyway. I hope this insight will give you much needed information in order to make an informed decision regarding discipline on the home front.

Guest

Re: daughter 4 discipline

Mar 20, 2009 6:52 AM

i think that detention is enough punishment already.

Die-Ana

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Registered: 5/28/07

Re: daughter 4 discipline- long post!

May 28, 2007 2:17 PM

my daughter is 14 and i used to disipline her when she got a detention but now i have stopped...isnt the detention enough? she learnd her lesson

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mummy4

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Registered: 2/16/07

Re: daughter 4 discipline- long post!

Feb 18, 2007 7:16 AM

Most 11 year olds nowadays are into their computers and playstations so I always take away their priveleges for whatever time I think is suitable.I always tell my kids that I will be happier if they tell me the truth even if I dont like it than lie to me to tell me what they think i want to hear.the punishment is always worse for the latter.

SISSY

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Registered: 2/9/07

Re: daughter 4 discipline

Feb 9, 2007 6:57 AM

no friends over for a week and no phone or computer for a week.

sadie5502

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Registered: 11/15/05

Re: daughter 4 discipline- long post!

Nov 21, 2005 11:08 AM

O.K. I have a 6 and a 4 year old and I use punishments for them like timeout and std in a corner- or a smack on the hand for really bad stuff- obviously yours is older so you probably have different things to do- But the point I want to make is this: If they do something wrong and then lie about it, they get a punishment for the bad thing they did and then 2 punishments for lying. Also if I suspect they have done something, sometimes I will offer to reduce the punishment if they tell me the truth and then I am very calm when administering punishment and I hug them and thank them for telling the truth. I want them to know I might get upset at them sometimes but if they tell me the truth I will forgive them and everything will be O.K. I want when they are teenagers to be able to come to me and feel safe. I don't want to let them off ever for lying. That will only hurt them down the road. Kids usually lie as a snap response to fear- what will mom say if she finds out- she'll be mad at me! I try to re-enforce that I will never be as mad about anything they might do as I will about a lie, and that I will always love them no matter what. Hope this helps! Oh, also- school punishment should not count as far as I am concerned. Your childs relationship with you is more important and schools are notoriously inconsistent- you are responsible for your child not them- You can always do a better job!!!

momof2

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Registered: 11/18/05