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HELP!!..My 14 yr old daughtr refuses to see gyn
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HELP!!..My 14 yr old daughtr refuses to see gyn

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Last Post Nov 19, 2009 9:02 AM by: Jessica6909
offline Jessica6909
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Registered: 11/19/09

Re: HELP!!..My 14 yr old daughtr refuses to see gyn

Nov 19, 2009 9:02 AM
I would bring up all the other benefits of birth control.... the things it can do for your skin, regulating her cycles, and helps with menstrual cramps if they are painful like mine are. Maybe she will decide she'd like to get on birth control for a different reason then. Maybe it would be easier for her if you did that.
offline **sexy baby**
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From: connecticut
Registered: 9/14/09

Re: HELP!!..My 14 yr old daughtr refuses to see gyn

Nov 14, 2009 5:02 PM

I wouldnt tell her she ABSOLUTELY cant have sex because that will push her to have it on the sneak. I would tell her that you suspect she is having sex and that its ok with you. I would explain to her that she can still get pregnant if she uses condoms, but that with birth control, the chances are much less likely. Tell her that it is extremely hard to raise a baby at 14 and you only want to protect her. If she still refuses then I would just drop it for a little while, then bring it back up. maybe you could make an appt. for yourself and bring her along with you so she can see exactly whats going on. hope this helps! good luck!

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offline MommyAndrea
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Registered: 11/14/09

Re: HELP!!..My 14 yr old daughtr refuses to see gyn

Nov 14, 2009 7:09 AM
i got pregnant at 14 because of the lack of communication between me and my mom. it was bad. i feel like you need to set down the rules. tell her if she wants to have sex she has to get birth control or use condoms. period. otherwise she can close her legs for little while. the end. those r the rules. you can explain to her that when the gyno gives you birth control they dont give you an exam. but if she is sexually active they might. once again tell her if she doesnt want to get on birth control then she can close her legs.
offline sexii almie
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Registered: 8/19/09

Re: HELP!!..My 14 yr old daughtr refuses to see gyn

Nov 8, 2009 11:42 PM
hi im 18 hopefully ths can help... i think ur daughter mite not want to see the gyn cuz she is afraid u'll find out that she is sexually active... even tho u seem like a cool and open mom she still mite be afraid of ur reaction; just talk to her n let her know she wont be in trouble if she is sexually active, that u just want to prevent teenage preg...

also what valy9000 said is a good idea...

good luck!! :-x
offline valy9000
Posts: 1
Registered: 11/8/09

Re: HELP!!..My 14 yr old daughtr refuses to see gyn

Nov 8, 2009 9:13 PM
Hi!
I hope I'm not too late, I just joined this place hehe :)
I think maybe your younger daughter is just scared because the gyno is a Dr after all, and honestly, I'm 19 and i have never been to one yet. I wish I had a mom as open minded a you! Maybe the best way to help your daughter is by asking your older one to talk to her, or maybe even a friend. Sometimes we are scared to talk about these type of things with our mothers, so maybe they can get her to be more open and finally go to the Dr. I hope your situation is solved soon :) God Bless*
offline jmsscroll
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Registered: 11/4/09

HELP!!..My 14 yr old daughtr refuses to see gyn

Nov 4, 2009 2:02 AM
Please help me...I have 6 kids, 2 of which are my beautiful daughters ages 14 & 15. My 15 yr old sees a gyn with no problem, is very open with me about everything and is currently on birth control. My 14 yr old absolutely refuses to see the gyn...I thought maybe it was fear of the unknown, but she just tells me no one is going to touch her like that or even look at her "there" and says that she isn't having sex so she doesn't need any birth control and doesn't need to see the gyn for anything. Normally I wouldn't push at this age, but, after explaining everything that would go on at an appt. with the gyn, and that if she was that scared I would go in with her, she still refuses. It really does not seem to be fear related. But after talking with my other daughter, I am really anxious to have her seen and put on some type of birth control. My 15 yr old tells me that her sister is definitely sexually active and should be on birth control...but I can't force her to go see the gyn. They wouldn't treat her against her will even if I was wiling to force the issue with her. I don't know what to do...ANY suggestions would be greatly appreciated. I'm at the end of my rope and I am definitely too young to be a Grandmother!! Please give any advice, I'm at my wits end and don't know what to do with her.

Scared Mom :O

ps-I regularly buy large boxes of condoms and leave them where the kids can easily take them without anyone "spying" on them (I also have older boys) and her sister tells me she does take some of those, but it's just to hand out to her friends.